.Monday, December 28, 2009 ' 12:40 AM Y
exclusively yoursthe mention of the word "exclusive" gives people a special and privileged feel. things like "exclusive sales for members only" gets those invloves excited. but sometimes it might not be a good thing after all, esp when it comes to our fellowship.
when our fellowship has come to a state of "exclusively yours", its dangerous. those in the "exclusively yours" group might feel belonged and privileged to be part of that exclusive fellowship, little did they realise that "exclusively yours" status is actually a "we are excluding you" status.
they can be so comfortable with their own company, own inside jokes, which unconsciously give people a hard-to-penetrate-through kinda feeling. yes, inside jokes can be such a exclusive factor that makes people feel like a fool in your group. those unexplained ones. and when our fellowship has come to a state when people find it hard to penetrate into that group, we have lost the essence of fellowship. it is such fellowship that blinds ourselves to our own faults and weakness. and when we think that we are the popular and much wanted group with that attention, we are actually the ones who are the most "blinded". and i wonder, how many of those friends we have close fellowship with actually dare to correct our faults and edify us strength.
im not mentioning any group of fellowshippers in particular, but i realised there is a fine line to draw between being that "exclusively yours" group and having a strong healthy identity for your group. we ought to be cautious about who we fellowship with, how we fellowship and how are we making the other people feel when we fellowship. esp in macro setting, its not good to portray your group as the "exclusively yours" group. its quite a turn off at times.
sometimes i wonder why do i have such a "complicated" mind.
it seems i always cant accept the way things are.
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
